Setbacks are part of life. Shattered plans are simply part of the game if you want to achieve anything.
Because if you only play it safe, you'll have fewer setbacks, but you'll also hardly make any progress.
Especially in leadership, this simple insight is crucial: If you try to "get through" all your plans and see the opposite as negative, you will always fall short of your potential.
If we always knew in advance what would work and what wouldn't, life would be very simple. But it is not!
In addition, there is another helpful insight: setbacks are almost never fatal. In the vast majority of cases, we can go on afterwards, and often even better than before.
A third point is that the most successful people see broken plans as a breeding ground for something new, according to the motto: “Stumble, get up, keep going".
Apply the belief: "Problems are my fuel."
Many people view problems and setbacks as fundamentally negative. How about instead having the belief that setbacks are good for you?
This doesn't mean that you deliberately create setbacks. But it does mean that every plan that falls apart has something positive that you can move on with.
By the way, seeing setbacks as very negative is usually a sign that you don't have enough mental or other reserves:
If a lost customer is dramatic for you, you simply don't have enough customers. If you see an argument in a relationship as a setback, you don't have a strong enough relationship. And so on.
When you recognize it this way, you can consciously work on the causes of your negative view of setbacks and gradually change your belief system.
Ask open-ended questions.
This is quite critical to immediately shine a positive light on a setback. When you ask open-ended questions, you switch your mind to looking for the next steps. In other words, you move forward instead of anxiously waiting.
Here are a few questions as an example:
What else could this mean? This is quite excellent for reinterpreting events - and thus perhaps no longer seeing them as setbacks, but as new opportunities.
What is this a sign of? This is similar to the first question, but focuses even more on the positive possibilities of the interpretation.
What possibilities have we got? No matter what happens: there are always possibilities to do something with it. In stressful situations, we just often don't see them. The question helps with this.
Design new future immediately.
As the third step, it is important not to remain trapped in the problems for long, but to design the new future immediately.
How can we move forward from here? What would be a new vision or goal? These are helpful questions.
We will get out of any difficult situation faster if we work on a new future as soon as possible.
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