😠 The Everyday Frustration As A Leader

Life as a leader is not always easy. There are not only times when you celebrate great successes with your team, but also frustration and difficulties.

The higher your own expectations, the more likely you are to experience frustration - if you don't install certain routines.

What I encounter as difficulties when coaching with my clients are various typical issues:

People not keeping their promises and timelines, coming to meetings unprepared, and so on. You just can't fully rely on others.

Another typical frustration generator is drama between people and departments, sometimes like in kindergarten (which is why parenting and leadership have a lot in common).

Many leaders also complain about "getting nowhere." The days go by with all sorts of things, but not the really important ones. Then in the evening you ask yourself, "What did I even get done today?"

So how can you minimize this difficulty and frustration? Here are three ideas:

1. Clarity about goals.
   The most important point is to gain sovereignty over the day yourself. One of the ways you do this is by being very clear about what is critical to your successful results, i.e. your goals.
   My tip: Write down your daily goals every morning (never more than three), and your annual, quarterly, monthly and weekly goals every week. It sounds like a lot, but it's relatively easy and quick to do if you're very clear about what's important to you. And that's the point: clarity about your essential results that you are determined to achieve. Most of my coaching clients don't have a spontaneous answer to this simple question.
2. More curiosity.
   Frustration in life usually comes from asking the wrong questions when our expectations aren't met. Instead of "why could this happen?" or "why today of all days?" embrace the surprise and say to yourself, "how fascinating!" And then go about solving the issue. Try it out. It makes a huge difference (I can confirm from my own experience).
3. Create certainty.
   A lot of frustration comes from insecurity. So here's my tip: create certainty for yourself and others. Define and be clear about what you will tolerate and what you will not. Make clear statements. Show reliability in your behavior. This and many other things will help to have fewer frustration experiences. Basic rule: Lack of clarity and uncertainty lead directly and indirectly to difficulties in leadership.

Good luck implementing these tips!

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